Posted on: Januar 14, 2020
You’ve met a nice person via a dating site. You have been exchanging messages and now it is time for the next step: a first date. How exciting! But of course you don’t want to show that you’re insecure. If you don’t want to appear too nervous, it’s smart to prepare properly for your first date. You don’t want things to get awkward during the date, do you? You just need some good date tips!
This article offers the solution! 10 super useful date tips which you can use in Amsterdam or anywhere else in the world.
One of the best date tips is to be well prepared. You have already taken the first good step by reading this article.
Make sure you are well rested on day of your first date. You don’t want to take the stress of work or travel with you during the date. You have to stay focused, so rest well.
Also, make sure you pay extra attention to your appearance: take a bath, take a long shower, shave, trim your nails and use some care products like day cream. If you look good you will feel better too. You radiate that and yes, your date will see that too!
Think carefully about which clothes you want to wear. Don’t wear old clothes, choose new, attractive clothes. In addition, it is very important that you wear clothes that you feel comfortable in. Don’t buy clothes for your date, buy clothes that you like.
Clothing tells a lot about your identity, and your date will remember that. If you’re not going to buy new clothes, at least make sure it’s washed and ironed.
Do you want to prepare well for a first date? Then choose a nice location in Amsterdam! A good date location is not the same for everyone. A nice café or restaurant is always good but it’s not a super original idea. It can be noisy and challenging if the talking does not go smoothly. In that case you can also do something together. How about taking a canal cruise? Or you could visit a cinema (if you are a bit shy or nervous), but you can also do something.
Do you like photography? Then you could try the Eye Museum in Amsterdam! Are you a sporty person? Then you could rent some bikes and explore the city, or take a salsa lesson.
Also fun to do during a first date in Amsterdam: Join a Red Light District tour. It’s an original, educational & healthy activity. An additional advantage is that afterwards you have enough to talk about.
Since you’re dating a stranger it might be a good idea to not overdo it. We don’t want to be too negative, but your first date doesn’t have to take the whole day or the whole evening – what if there isn’t a match?
Make your first date nice and short, and agree on this in advance. If it is great fun, you can always decide at that time to spend more time together. By determining the duration in advance, you also control the expectations.
“Good dating advice is not just about tricks or smooth phrases, but about the underlying principles that make you a more attractive person.“
To-do-tip: Visit Pathe Tuchinski in Amsterdam. A beautiful, historical cinema.
Make clear agreements about the location and time in advance. You don’t want to keep waiting at the wrong restaurant, cinema, museum or park.
Also do not make vage appointments like “around 2 pm” or “4-ish”. That might cause discomfort and irritation, so make sure it is crystal clear where and when your date starts.
You don’t want to come across as a stalker, but doing a little research is never wrong. Immerse yourself in the interests and work of your date. This way you know what you can talk about during the date. It also saves discomfort if he or she starts talking about a job or a hobby that you have really never heard of.
One of the better date tips during a first date: Don’t overdo it and bring things smoothly during the date. For example: “On one of your social media pictures, I saw that you were playing tennis. Is this something you often do?” Do not say: “I know you like tennis.” That sounds creepy!
Pre-corona it was normal for men and women in the Netherlands to greet each other with three kisses. That’s quite different as other countries.
Today it is normal to just wave or do an elbow greeting. Greeting someone can be awkward due to miscommunication. So think about the way you are going to greet your date.
Our date tip: announce your choice. Say for example: “Nice to meet you, I’m just going wave because that’s safest!” This will avoid that awkward moment when you may both make different greeting choices.
This is definitely one of the best date tips out there. You’ve already talked to each other via a chat but in real life it may be more difficult to keep a conversation going. Therefore, prepare some questions in advance. Questions about hobbies, travelling, the weather or sports are always good.
Do not about politics on a first date. That is not romantic at all.
Dating tip: Try to ask as many open questions as possible and add your opinion on those answers.
This might sounds weird but make sure you do “number two” at home. This will decrease the chance that this will happen unexpectedly during your date. You would rather avoid such an inconvenience, right?
One of the most important date tips to remember. It probably won’t be a successful date if you forget the name of your date. It’s important to remember! You don’t want look like a dumb-ass, right?
Date Tipp: when greeting each other, repeat that persons name and ask where the name comes from. Or just repeat the name and say you like it. By doing so you give a compliment and you remember the name better.
Remember, you’re on a date – not a job interview. Relax! You are here together to explore each other. If you like the other person, show it by flirting: Listen carefully, smile, give compliments and look each other into the eyes.
Do you have any other good date tips? Please share them in the comment section below.